Thursday, December 8, 2022

When Conversation Gets Stuck: 25 Questions To Ask Your Spouse











"Instead of opening the doors to communication, a lack of time together actually slams them closed and locks ‘em on the way out. Why? Because when you no longer feel connected, you aren’t able to enjoy that level of trust and intimacy to get you past surface-level convos with your spouse".....


https://www.familylife.com/articles/topics/marriage/staying-married/communication/when-conversation-gets-stuck-25-questions-to-ask-your-spouse/

Wednesday, December 7, 2022

We’re in a Season Of Grief...How Do I Stay Close To My Spouse?









"Navigating a season of grief together is one of the most challenging things you’ll do as a couple. These seasons will come and go throughout your lifetime, and it’s important to decide how you want to handle them as a team. While things in life rarely play out the way we think they should, having a plan for sticking together during difficult times could help you to stay close".....


https://www.symbis.com/blog/were-in-a-season-of-grief-how-do-i-stay-close-to-my-spouse/

Tuesday, November 15, 2022

The Positive Perspective
















"You can keep an eye on your capacity for the Positive Perspective by considering the notion of your 
Emotional Bank Account. Couples who are in stable, happy relationships have a ratio of positive to negative interactions of 5:1".....


https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-positive-perspective/

Thursday, November 3, 2022

Do you need to let go of control in your marriage?











"The truth is, I know my husband really does love me. There’s a good chance yours loves you, as well. When we choose control in marriage, we communicate disrespect and push our husbands away".....


https://shaunti.com/2022/11/do-you-need-to-let-go-of-control-in-your-marriage/

Monday, October 31, 2022

6 Dates to Master Throughout Marriage

















"You and your spouse will go on a lot of dates throughout the course of your marriage – at least we hope you will! After all, continuing to date each other helps you nurture connection, friendship, and intimacy in your relationship, which can wane over time if you’re not careful".....

https://www.prepare-enrich.com/blog/6-dates-to-master-throughout-marriage/

Wednesday, October 26, 2022

(repeat post, but a good reminder) 7 Signs You’re Showing Contempt Toward Your Spouse

















"Contempt may seem like such a strong word that you dismiss the thought of it being a problem in your marriage. But take a moment to ask yourself whether you have ever shown disrespect or disdain to or for your spouse or have looked down on each other or been scornful for some reason".....

http://www.markmerrill.com/7-signs-youre-showing-contempt-toward-your-spouse/

Monday, October 24, 2022

Balancing Family and Career











"Perhaps rather than busyness, we should value balance. And balance demands priorities. Whether it’s a balanced diet or a balanced work-home life, it all comes down to us—and the power of choices".....

https://www.familylife.com/articles/topics/marriage/marriage-challenges/busyness-and-stress-challenges/balancing-family-and-career-for-the-young-professional-pursuing-both/

Thursday, October 20, 2022

Rest May Look Different for Men and Women











"We can be busy, but we don’t have to be weary and stressed. We can have much on our shoulders, but we don’t have to be burdenedSo how might this apply differently to women and men?".....

https://shaunti.com/2022/09/need-rest-finding-it-may-look-different-for-men-and-women/

Wednesday, October 12, 2022

How to Stress Less about Money









"Money is one of the most common topics married couples fight about. If managing money is stressful for you, then it can take a toll on your relationship. Since you can’t escape financial discussions, how can you handle the topic without getting grouchy or arguing?".....

https://www.symbis.com/blog/how-to-stress-less-about-money-in-your-marriage/

Wednesday, September 28, 2022

It's Time for an Attitude Check!








The same is true for our attitudes in marriage (and other relationships). A negative attitude, for example, impacts our ability to practice happiness. Can we build joyful marriages if we don’t make happiness a habit? Absolutely not. Think it’s time for an attitude check-up? We do. That’s because there’s never a bad time to check in with your outlook

https://www.symbis.com/blog/why-its-time-for-an-attitude-check-up/

Monday, September 26, 2022

5 Ways to Give Your Spouse Your Best
















"The cares of this world—fatigue, sickness, finances, jobs—sometimes create roadblocks in relationships. But leftovers in relationships should be the exception, not the rule. The rule should be to give your spouse your freshest and best—the first fruits of your time and energy—not your leftovers. Here are 5 ways to do that".....


http://www.markmerrill.com/5-ways-to-give-your-spouse-your-best/

Tuesday, September 20, 2022

4 Things Your Spouse Needs In a Crisis
















"In the middle of a crisis, married couples usually respond in different ways. One spouse will remain calm while the other one may be freaking out on the inside. One spouse may need a few minutes alone while the other spouse is ready to take charge and go".....


https://empoweredhomes.org/resource/four-things-your-spouse-needs-in-a-crisis/

Wednesday, August 31, 2022

3 Secrets to Being Better Teammates

















"We say it often: remember that you and your spouse are on the same team. The advice seems straightforward enough, but let’s be honest – it’s not always easy to follow through. You don’t always feel like teammates".....


https://www.prepare-enrich.com/blog/3-secrets-to-being-better-teammates/

Tuesday, August 30, 2022

When Knee-Jerk Reactions Cause Money Tension In Marriage











"Although everyone reacts in different ways, at some point we all have a negative response to something around money—especially what our spouse does with money".....


https://shaunti.com/2022/08/when-knee-jerk-reactions-cause-money-tension-in-marriage/

Wednesday, August 24, 2022

5 Tips for Blending Your Family Peacefully









"A third of Americans today are part of a stepfamily structure. When both of a child’s parents remarry, that child has two entirely different immediate families to fit into. And that’s only one of the many possible issues and points of friction that remarriage can bring".....


https://www.symbis.com/blog/5-tips-for-blending-your-family-peacefully/

Tuesday, August 23, 2022

Simple Tips for Tackling Tasks Together

















"Every couple has them. Those tasks neither of you wants to do. They hang over you, needing to be done. But they’re tedious, annoying, intimidating, or simply unpleasant. Sometimes they even cause tension in your relationship. However, marriage is about being a team. There’s no reason why that formidable to-do list has to get the best of you. Here are some simple ways you can tackle those tasks together".....

https://www.prepare-enrich.com/blog/simple-tips-for-tackling-tasks-together/

Thursday, August 18, 2022

Why does my man try to carry all the groceries in at once?










There are three factors here that are pretty simple, but also pretty meaningful, for all of us who want to have a great relationship with our man. (And these same factors often matter to our sons, as well).....

https://shaunti.com/2022/08/why-does-my-man-try-to-carry-all-the-groceries-in-at-once/

Monday, August 15, 2022

5 Steps to Fix Your Marriage Problem
















"When problems come along, we usually focus on our spouse’s part in it all. It’s so much easier to switch the spotlight to our spouses than it is to turn it on ourselves. But chances are, you have a part to play in whatever needs attention—and the solution may be in your hands and heart".....


http://www.markmerrill.com/5-steps-to-fix-your-marriage-problem

Thursday, August 11, 2022

5 Common Assumptions that Cause Conflict













"In fact, most of the time we probably don’t even realize we’re making assumptions. That’s what makes them so tricky – but not if you know what to watch out for. Here are five common assumptions we make about our spouse that cause conflict in marriage".....


https://www.prepare-enrich.com/blog/5-common-assumptions-that-cause-conflict-in-marriage/

Wednesday, August 10, 2022

Speaking Truth in Marital Conflict
















"We know that when couples use words like alwaysnever, and only to describe each other’s behavior or to express a complaint, it will not help to resolve their conflict. These words exaggerate and overgeneralize in a way that provokes a spouse to defensiveness. Instead of considering and talking about their spouse’s concern, an accused spouse will be tempted to prove that they are not always guilty of this or that behavior".....


https://www.ccef.org/speaking-truth-in-marital-conflict/

Tuesday, August 9, 2022

Tuesday, August 2, 2022

Making a Happy Marriage










"Based on a special-purpose study of more than 1,000 couples to discover what the happiest marriages do differently, here are three vital habits every newlywed (and about-to-be wed!) couple needs to build, in order to make a great marriage".....

https://shaunti.com/2022/05/top-marriage-advice-for-newlyweds-and-everyone-else-about-making-a-happy-marriage/

Monday, August 1, 2022

10 Must-Haves Your Marriage Can't Live Without

 
















"There are certainly some must-haves for our marriage too. However, these things aren’t anything money can buy, and they can’t be replaced by the next best thing. They are eternal and necessary, and our marriage can’t live without them".....


https://xomarriage.com/articles/10-must-haves-your-marriage-cant-live-without/

Wednesday, July 20, 2022

4 Times It's OK to go to Bed Angry

















"When you think of cliché relationship advice, it’s hard to beat the adage of 'Never go to bed angry.' It might sound idyllic, but when you find yourselves still hashing out an argument at 2am you might start to wonder if it’s advice worth following".....

https://www.prepare-enrich.com/blog/4-times-its-okay-to-go-to-bed-angry/

Tuesday, July 19, 2022

Why Does My Wife Expect Me to Read Her Mind?






 




"Why does my wife or girlfriend expect me to know what she’s thinking? This is the question asked by many a puzzled or frustrated man in our interviews over the years".....


https://shaunti.com/2022/07/why-does-my-wife-expect-me-to-read-her-mind/

Wednesday, July 13, 2022

How to Read Your Wife's Mind











"No, there’s no such thing as actual mind-reading (sorry)—but there is a way to confidently understand what is going on in there, rather than feeling a bit confused or even helpless at times".....


https://shaunti.com/2022/07/how-to-read-your-wifes-mind/

Tuesday, July 12, 2022

3 Essential Relationship Boundaries
















"Being intentional about setting boundaries can help you maintain and protect the precious thing that is your relationship".....


https://www.prepare-enrich.com/blog/3-essential-relationship-boundaries/

Monday, July 11, 2022

What to do When Your Spouse is Suffering

 














"In a broken world that only seems to be breaking more with each passing day, the question is important. How do you minister to a suffering spouse who is riddled with heartache, hopelessness, anxiety, angst, disappointment, doubt, or despair? A spouse who is overwhelmed, overworked, or overstressed? A spouse who is battling fear, guilt, shame, exhaustion, 
grief, or a plethora of other soul-testing emotions?".....

https://erlc.com/resource-library/articles/what-to-do-when-your-spouse-is-suffering/

Wednesday, July 6, 2022

Battling Distance in Marriage
















"Over those first three years, we only spent seven months under the same roof. Any amount of distance or separation will 
affect a marriage, and that was certainly true with ours. Over time, we have learned a variety of ways to reduce the impact and close the distance in our marriage, even when we can’t be physically together".....


https://xomarriage.com/articles/battling-distance-in-marriage/

Wednesday, June 29, 2022

Listening 101









A common theme in marital conflict is the idea that one or both spouses don’t feel heard. Has your spouse ever told you that you’re not hearing them? If so, there are some things you can do to help them know that you’re listening–or that you’re working to understand where they’re coming from.


https://www.symbis.com/blog/listening-101-tips-to-help-you-better-hear-your-spouse/

Monday, June 27, 2022

7 Commandments of a Christian Marriage














"I think there are some necessary ingredients for a healthy marriage. That’s the point of this post. Want a healthier marriage? Consider these 7 Commandments of Marriage".....

https://www.crosswalk.com/family/marriage/engagement-newlyweds/the-7-commandments-of-christian-marriage.html

Thursday, June 23, 2022

5 Ways to Show Commitment
















"When we think about what goes into a strong marriage, our mind often goes to things like good communication or staying connected. And those things are very important. But underlying everything is commitment. We can express it through words, but our actions are what make it a sustaining force in our relationship".....


https://www.prepare-enrich.com/blog/5-ways-to-show-commitment/

Wednesday, June 22, 2022

You Can't Read My Mind

















"In thinking about communication in marriage, we have to realize that everyone communicates differently. We have unique personalities. To communicate well, we need to know who we are and our own strengths and weaknesses related to communication".....


https://xomarriage.com/articles/you-cant-read-my-mind/

Tuesday, June 21, 2022

4 Comments Husbands Make that Offend Wives
















"Communication in marriage is critical. I’ve seen a lack of communication and negative communication kill marriages. Whether it’s the tone you use, the words you say, or your timing, you must guard your words carefully. 
Here are 4 comments husbands make that offend wives".....


http://www.markmerrill.com/4-comments-husbands-make-that-offend-wives/

Monday, June 20, 2022

3 Things to Consider Before Giving Up on Your Spouse
















"The line between harmful and unhappy is not black and white, and you may need to reach out to someone wise you trust to help you discern the difference. If you’re like most unhappily married people, when your disappointment feels strong, you wonder whether you’ve signed up for a lifetime of misery".....


https://careynieuwhof.com/3-things-to-consider-before-giving-up-on-your-spouse/

Wednesday, June 8, 2022

Money, Money, Money











"And if you’ve been married for years and are still finding yourself with money frustrations, avoidance or simply wishing you could get on the same page, you might want to walk through these as well".....


https://shaunti.com/2022/06/top-marriage-advice-for-newlyweds-and-everyone-else-about-money/

Monday, June 6, 2022

Thursday, June 2, 2022

Why It's Time to Start Dating Your Spouse Again









"When you continue to date your spouse, you can keep that spark of anticipation, curiosity, and lighthearted fun alive. Setting aside time for regular dates gives you and your spouse something to look forward to that doesn’t involve your usual daily obligations".....


https://www.symbis.com/blog/why-its-time-to-start-dating-your-spouse-again/

Wednesday, June 1, 2022

5 Habits that Sabotage Good Communication
















"We’re human – our own emotions, biases, and expectations can cloud our ability to convey exactly what we mean or accurately interpret what our spouse is telling us. Despite good intentions, you might actually be sabotaging your efforts toward good communication with these five habits".....

https://www.prepare-enrich.com/blog/5-habits-that-sabotage-good-communication/

Wednesday, May 25, 2022

Coping with Competitive In-Laws









"Family relationships can be complicated. This is especially true when you marry and combine families. If your in-laws happen to be competitive, this adds an entirely new layer of issues to navigate".....


https://www.symbis.com/blog/3-tips-for-coping-with-competitive-in-laws/

Thursday, May 19, 2022

5 Things to Leave Out of a Fight
















"When arguing as a couple, we know what presses our spouse’s buttons. The longer you’re married, the more you know what will get at the other. 
When we argue, there are things we do that aren’t helpful and in fact, cause more problems. Here are 5 things to leave out of a fight with your spouse".....


http://www.markmerrill.com/things-you-should-never-say-in-an-argument

Tuesday, May 10, 2022

10 Encouraging Facts about Marriage You Need to Hear










How often do you hear someone toss out negative comments about the state of marriage today? For example: Half of marriages end in divorce, The pandemic was brutal for marriages, Divorce has been rising for years, Churchgoers don’t do any better at marriage. Most conventional wisdom about marriage today is depressing—and yet most of it is also not true!

https://shaunti.com/2022/05/10-encouraging-facts-about-marriage-you-need-to-hear-and-share/

Monday, May 9, 2022

The Worst Marriage Advice Ever















"Some marriage advice is helpful and given with the best of intentions. Unfortunately, other well-meaning counsel is misguided and useless. Here's a summary of the worst marriage advice I've heard".....

Thursday, May 5, 2022

Husbands: 50 Ways to Inspire Your Wife










"But remember that, at least in part, a man’s impact may be measured in the joy and character of the people closest to him. The way that a man sees his wife, the way he cherishes her, has a lasting effect on her beauty within and without. How does your wife feel about you and your relationship to her? How do you want your children to remember your acts of love for their mother?"......

https://www.familylife.com/articles/topics/marriage/staying-married/husbands/50-ways-to-inspire-your-wife/

Wednesday, May 4, 2022

4 Ways to Practice Generous Grace in Your Marriage








"How we choose to respond to our spouse’s shortcomings builds and shapes our character. And our ability to extend grace, forgive, and correct our own mistakes with humility helps to strengthen our marriage in turn. In even the healthiest of relationships, extending generous grace is a requirement. Let’s take a look at four ways you can practice grace-giving in your own marriage."

https://www.symbis.com/blog/4-ways-to-practice-generous-grace-in-your-marriage/

Wednesday, April 27, 2022

5 Areas to Strive for Balance














"Sometimes, you just know when things are out of whack. Other times, it’s harder to pin down. Why is that? Well, we don’t just need balance in one area of our lives, but several areas that all intermingle and affect each other. If you and your spouse are feeling out of balance lately, here are five areas to consider".....


https://www.prepare-enrich.com/blog/5-areas-to-strive-for-balance/

Thursday, April 21, 2022

Are Rough Patches in Relationships Normal?













"This time in your relationship might be temporary, and you and your partner need different tools to navigate. There is no guilt or shame involved with hitting a rough patch. It can be the jolt your relationship needs to come out stronger and more valued on the other side"

Wednesday, April 20, 2022

Why You and Your Spouse Should Try a New Shared Activity









"A shared activity can be anything you do together, from a hobby to a sport or other recreational activity. These activities will look different from one couple to the next, depending on your interests and your preferences (such as whether you enjoy physical, high-impact activities or prefer something more lowkey). The most important thing is finding pastimes that you can spend time doing together".....

Monday, April 18, 2022

5 Habits to Hold Onto Throughout Your Marriage















"While their absence doesn’t necessarily signal that you no longer love each other, their presence enriches your relationship with a consistent connection and respect that stands the test of time".....

Thursday, April 14, 2022

3 Signs You're Married to a Narcissist
















"Narcissism is different from selfishness. All people are selfish to some degree, but a Narcissist is selfish on a very unique level. Here are three signs that someone is exhibiting narcissistic behavior in marriage".....


https://xomarriage.com/articles/3-signs-youre-married-to-a-narcissist/