“'Let’s redefine your goal,' I offered Cecily. 'What if the goal is not to agree, but instead to see and be seen?' We know from Gottman research that it isn’t agreement that makes couples happy. In fact, the happiest couples disagree on about 69% of issues, and possibly even core values like politics and religion. What happens in the brain when we’re seen".....
https://www.gottman.com/blog/what-to-do-when-you-disagree/