"Manipulation, by definition, can be a pretty crazy mind game. ('Wait. What just happened? Is my spouse manipulating me?') It can leave you feeling guilty, angry, confused, insecure. You might feel like you just got played. It can be subtle: 'Does this dress make me look fat?' Or not".....
https://www.familylife.com/articles/topics/marriage/marriage-challenges/help-is-my-spouse-manipulating-me/