Repair is the Secret Weapon
"When you think about it, every couple in every relationship is set up for failure. It’s impossible to be emotionally available to your partner 100% of the time. In his book, The Science of Trust, Dr. Gottman explains that both partners in a relationship are emotionally available only 9% of the time. This leaves 91% of our relationship ripe for miscommunication".....
https://www.gottman.com/blog/repair-secret-weapon-emotionally-connected-couples/