"If, Then" Marriage Cycle
"The endless cycle seen above is what I’ve come to call the 'If, Then' Marriage Cycle. All too often, we find ourselves saying to our spouses 'If you would just do this, then I would do that.' It’s conditional love, which is really not love at all because true love is unconditional".....
http://www.markmerrill.com/if-then-marriage-cycle/