The ANGER Iceberg

"Anger is often described as a 'secondary emotion' because people tend to use it to protect their own raw, vulnerable, overwhelming feelings. Underneath Dave’s anger was pure exhaustion and feeling that he wasn’t good enough for his wife. So his anger was protecting him from deeply painful shame".....

https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-anger-iceberg/?utm_source=Marriage+Minute&utm_campaign=6ba4aded23-MM_042517&utm_medium=email&utm_term=0_56abe07ac5-6ba4aded23-135378537