Seriously. What’s the Point of Marriage?

"Honestly, sustained and immutable happiness is arguably the most ineffective goal you could set for your relationship because it’s not possible to achieve. The reality of happiness, just like any other emotion, is that it comes and goes, just like the in-laws during the holidays, 80’s fashion, or stomach cramps. Well, today it’s time to bust out another cold, hard truth: The point of marriage is not happiness. The point of marriage is growth".....

https://www.gottman.com/blog/seriously-whats-point-marriage-growth/

7 Bad Ways to Fight with Your Spouse

"You’re fighting with your spouse, and as it gets more intense, you wonder how you got there. Sometimes it’s because we say the wrong thing. Other times, our approach, tactics, or habits are the problem. I’ve noticed a parallel between the way certain animals behave and unhealthy argument styles. Are you behaving like these animals when you argue? Here are 7 bad ways to face a fight with your spouse".....

http://www.markmerrill.com/7-bad-ways-fighting-with-spouse/

Emotional Intimacy: Grasping the Full Spectrum of Feeling

When it comes to emotional intimacy, I’ve found myself similarly limited, struggling to identify and understand my emotions. When my wife asks, “How are you feeling?” I almost never reply with an actual emotion word. My sentence might start with “I feel” but usually end with “…like taking a nap,” “…like eating Taco Bell,” or “…like punching the wall.” Inigo Montoya from The Princess Bride would tell me, “You keep on using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means.”.....

https://www.familylife.com/articles/topics/marriage/staying-married/communication/emotional-intimacy-grasping-the-full-spectrum-of-feeling/