"We were praying for someone who was cheating on his wife. And I was struck by what one person said in his prayer: 'Lord, work in his heart so that he will think less about the pleasure he is experiencing and more about the pain he is causing.' That seemed quite appropriate to me. A spouse who is caught up in adultery is living only for the moment, caught up in a fantasy of excitement and desire, and ignoring the very real consequences."
"Anger can be processed by going on a run, practicing yoga, or mindfully engaging in deep breathing. While these are all great tactics, what happens when your anger is directed at your partner in the heat of the moment".....
https://www.gottman.com/blog/handle-anger-relationship/
"Examples of healthy boundaries in marriage can be hard to identify. When things are working—whether in your marriage or in someone else’s—it just seems natural. On the other hand, examples of unhealthy boundaries in marriage are usually painfully obvious, not only to you, but to the people around you".....
https://www.alisoncookphd.com/healthy-boundaries-in-marriage/