"When problems come along, we usually focus on our spouse’s part in it all. It’s so much easier to switch the spotlight to our spouses than it is to turn it on ourselves. But chances are, you have a part to play in whatever needs attention—and the solution may be in your hands and heart".....http://www.markmerrill.com/5-steps-to-fix-your-marriage-problem
"We know that when couples use words like always, never, and only to describe each other’s behavior or to express a complaint, it will not help to resolve their conflict. These words exaggerate and overgeneralize in a way that provokes a spouse to defensiveness. Instead of considering and talking about their spouse’s concern, an accused spouse will be tempted to prove that they are not always guilty of this or that behavior".....https://www.ccef.org/speaking-truth-in-marital-conflict/
