"Emotional abuse is real. In my line of work, I’ve watched women of all different backgrounds live through the pain it can cause, and I’ve seen it haunt them. I’ve seen them suffer the trauma of someone dominating, berating, criticizing, and chastising them".....
https://www.gottman.com/blog/can-words-really-hurt-me/
"Chances are you are tuned in to your spouse’s self-esteem and notice when they are feeling vulnerable. When you spot this trait in your partner ask yourself, 'Where is my spouse feeling most vulnerable right now, and what can I do to help build them up and affirm who they are?'"......
https://www.symbis.com/blog/practical-ways-to-affirm-your-spouse/